I want to leave my options open.
For me personally, marriage isn’t super high on my list but something I’d like to have. Other kids in my generation, including myself, don’t really care too much about marriage right now. Most kids don’t think about the future and would much rather be playing Fortnite or scrolling through Instagram.
I want to leave my options open. I think that it makes no sense to say “I am going to get married, no matter what,” because you can’t decide to get married until you have a person to get married to. I think you can’t just expect there to be someone for you to marry. Sometimes what you get is what you get.
You should plan your life around all the people you meet, not without thinking of them at all. If you were driving on a road without a map, and you said: “I’m going to cross a river!” That wouldn’t be a wise thing to say- there might not be a river to cross at all. I think I will wait until I see a river before deciding whether to cross it or go around it.
I have personally never been interested in relationships. I am perfectly content with my friends and I don’t feel like there is something missing. The worst thing is having to walk down the hallways watching every couple dramatically kiss like it’s their last day alive. I wonder if there is something wrong without wanting that. Though I debate back and forth with myself often I always end up realizing that everyone doesn’t want the same thing in life.
There is societal pressure to get married.
The social pressure to get married in the past generations was so high that most would get married just because it was what you were, “supposed to do,” not out of love. As many are coming to figure out, a marriage isn’t the right choice for them. Despite what they feel, the pressure to get married is still there. From parents and society alike. What we need to realize as a society is that what worked (or didn’t work) for a past generation doesn’t work for everyone. Every individual person should be able to decide what they want to do with their lives. And if that ‘thing’ is to never get married, so be it.
In Pakistani culture, marriage is valued very highly and is one of the most important traditions for all families. Even though I am Pakistani myself, I believe that marriage is not a necessity as people can find happiness without it. I also believe that marriage should come naturally as love progresses, but in my culture it feels forced. The notion for all Pakistani boys and girls is that if you do not get married, then you are letting your family down and I believe that is creating unnecessary stress. Another problem in Pakistani culture is the idea of arranged marriage which I am completely against, as marriage should be a commitment of love and not just something that is done just because your parents tell you to.
I do not agree with the concept of marriage as an institution. Marriage is something that many people feel pressured into (especially women), and they may try to do it as young as possible, making their main goal to be wed rather than to find their soulmate. Finding someone who you happen to end up spending your life with happens organically, as people are free to enter and leave the relationship at a more comfortable pace. Marriage may also pressure people into other major life decisions; after the wedding comes the house and kids. While some life partners may take these steps together, there is far less of an obligation to do so. When people fall out of love, as so many unfortunately do, there is so much stigma around divorce that many unhappy married couples stay together out of social pressure. In a less traditional couple, one party may feel free to leave the relationship when it is no longer working out.